I Care, Therefore I Am.. Arrogant?

This is a phenomenon I began witnessing in 2016 and am seeing it on the rise again. The accusation of arrogance, falsely applied. Often directed toward myself when I post one of my own articles in response to a complex discussion. It is being used by members of both major parties.

I will note that I tend to spend a lot of time, thought and research on each article I write, so if I have already written an article on a subject, it’s a waste of time and energy to rewrite that same article during a discussion online.

The definition of arrogance means having an attitude of superiority. It really comes down to not caring about dissenting opinions. If you do not care about the opinions of others, it literally means you don’t care about other people. Only yourself, your own profit motive. Arrogance in itself is immature, the inability to think beyond yourself.

Basically every article I write focuses on issues which affect millions of people, often in ways which do not include myself. I propose ideas which may cost me personally in some ways but find them beneficial because they would benefit society in some way. The very ability to think beyond yourself, to be able to comprehend consequences, to listen to dissenting viewpoints are signs of emotional maturity. So, if I possess the characteristics and am aware of them, does that make me arrogant? Or does it mean self-awareness?

The defining characteristic of those who direct these accusations against me are that they have either no actual thoughts on a subject or they will post articles written by someone else. Most often a corporate source. They literally do not think or they seek out sources which concur with their own existing bias. They refuse to even discuss any subject enough to address what they feel is inaccurate in any way. They throw tantrums, insults, accusations and refuse to acknowledge possible consequences of their decisions.

Tell me, which do you think is arrogant?

Yes, I have flaws and often admit to them openly. I’m sure as hell not perfect. I will admit to a “flaw” in my own personality. I think about others too much. I am a nurse. I have spent 24 years thinking of others as a career. I consciously chose this profession because I knew this to be a strong characteristic of my personality. While I write prodigiously, in real life I tend to be the opposite too often. I spend a lot of time listening to others, including in friendships and relationships, while my own needs and feelings are forgotten in the process. As a result I’ve lost sleep and money which will never be regained while ultimately feeling alone many times. Do I regret it? No. Am I trying to do better? Yes.

Some people would call me co-dependent. However, I don’t enable damaging behavior. I view society as a system of relationships. Friendships, romantic arrangements, social structures, business, etc are all forms of relationships. Relationships are cyclical, where each member of a relationship contributes in some way. Each gives, each receives, either monetarily or emotionally. The exception to this are hoarders, such as the rich, who give an infinitesimal fraction of that which they take. That’s when it becomes damaging and hence truly co-dependent and unhealthy to continue supporting or defending them. Or in abusive relationships, where one partner takes by force, abuse and neglect. Like political parties. Both political parties. We have to examine the cycles involved to see who gains, who loses and strive to attain balance between the two if we want our society to be a healthy relationship as a whole.

I’ve written extensively about economic systems and the cycles involved. How our own system is unbalanced, how it could potentially become more balanced. I have written about wages, food stamps, universal healthcare, weapons contractors, the stock market and on and on. I have a habit of going into more detail than many people ever attempt to understand while doing so in simple language. To date, I have yet to encounter an opposing opinion which was lucid enough to sway my opinion. Not because my views are set in stone, because I examine things closely and any opposition has always come from an uninformed and/or selfish stance.

I think about, examine and write about things because I care. I care about the victims of US wars, people in poverty, the sick without healthcare, the hungry, the disabled, victims of prejudice, victims of police abuse, people working multiple jobs to make a basic living, people who lose their jobs/savings/homes because of corporate abuse, those who have their human rights trampled on. In short, anyone who is treated as “less than”.

So, go ahead and call me arrogant. Call me any name you like. When you have a rational view which you can personally discuss without resorting to insults and posting thoughts which have been dictated to you, I will happily listen and converse accordingly. As long as you continue seeking corporate, political, religious “leaders” to speak for you while being unable to define your own thoughts on a subject in detail, I will view you as a child seeking a parental figure. As long as you use insults, accusations and refuse to recognize opposing rational views, you have no right to use the term “arrogant”.

Oh, yeah. Another flaw I have is using too much profanity for some people. Another is that if someone offends me (which takes a concerted, intentional effort), I tend to come out of a corner fighting. Just keep in mind, my fight is for a lot more than myself. Who and what are you fighting for?

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