There is a book you should read. It’s called, Who Stole Feminism?” by Christina Hoff Sommers. I read it years ago and it was a real eye opener.
It details how the “feminist movement” (like many movements) splintered into segregated groups at war with one another. That is the militant feminism you refer to. The movement which intentionally excludes men and that is the source of confrontation rather than cooperation which led to where we are today. I know of that confrontation first hand by personal experience.
I agree and have fought for equality my whole life. Militant feminists do not want equality, they want superiority and the white pussy hatters most of all.
I criticized the Women’s March with a passion based on the fact that it was exclusionary and had no purpose. It was a hate march with no stated goals, no defined policy proposals. Just a bunch of white centrists spending large sums of money which would have been better spent on printing, websites, etc for specific agendas to achieve. No, they wanted to “feel special” and listen to DWS speak. Because that helped women’s rights.